Guess who's back?
No! not Covid, It's me! I know I've been absent for two weeks. What can I say? I needed time to work and pull strings behind the scenes to increase my blog posts' reach. Happy new month, and if you're American, Happy Independence day!
The inspiration for this blog post was a question from an LXGG army member (yes! that's the name I decided to call the members of the love & gbas gbos community). Respecting privacy, the member asked how they could overcome a particular addiction that had become quite bothersome and was beginning to affect their marriage.
Addiciton is a winnable battle. Billions of people win their fight against the various addictions they face. Now, I'm not going to be an arse by saying, "oh! the best way to beat an addiciton is not to start it in the first place."
This is a safe space, and I know life happens to everyone. The fact that you're reading this blog post proves you are serious about breaking the hold of whatever you are addicted to in your life.
On the journey to overcoming any addiction, you must take five (5) crucial steps if you are going to be successful. Research tells us it takes ninety (90) days to break an addiction. These steps I will share with you today are tailored to help you achieve that feat. Let's begin!!!
ACCEPT YOU HAVE A PROBLEM
They say acceptance is the first and hardest step to take on your journey to overcoming addiction. Admitting you have a problem that needs to be solved is the only way you can be open to searching for and valuing solutions. Recognizing a need is the only way to appreciate the answer to that need. This step requires courage, so be courageous.
IDENTIFY THE NEED YOU ARE TRYING TO MEET WITH THE ADDICTION
All humans ever do is look for solutions to meet their needs. I call this the human curse. From your birthday to your death day, you will spend your whole life working to satisfy your needs. We work to get money to fulfil the need for food, clothing and shelter. We learn human interaction and social etiquette to satisfy our need for human connection. We procreate as humans to meet the demand for our genes and species to live on after we are gone. We are like hamsters stuck on a wheel.
There are four (4) core needs of human behaviour. These needs are; escape needs, real needs, attention needs and sensory needs.
Real Needs: These are survival needs. These needs include food, clothing, shelter and sex. Examples of behaviours that satisfy these needs consist of working for money to pay for food, clothing, shelter and, in some cases, sex.
Escape Needs: These may be physical or psychological needs. This need stems from fear, disgust and negative feelings. Behaviour that satisfies this need includes; physically running away from danger, taking out the trash it smells, and engaging in or binging movies/series due to boredom.
Attention Needs: A.K.A. a need stemming from a lack of social interaction. People do or say things to get attention from someone or a group. Behaviour done to satisfy this need includes posting controversial things and fishing for compliments from strangers on the internet.
Sensory Needs: People perform actions that feel good to them to satisfy this need. Good examples of human behaviours to fulfil this need are; alcohol consumption, over-eating, watching pornography, having sex etc.
Every single human behaviour is done in an attempt to satisfy these needs. And any behaviour that meets two (2) to four(4) of these needs is the most addictive and the hardest to break. So your job in this second step is to know what behavioural need you are trying to fulfil with the addiction you are currently trying to overcome. Suppose your addiction is fulfilling multiple needs. In that case, you will have to develop healthy habits that replace the addiction and ultimately meet the needs the addiction was fulfilling.
IDENTIFY YOUR TRIGGERS/CUES
Triggers/cues are events or experiences that cause emotional feelings in us. Triggers/cues usually cause us to use our addiction as a coping mechanism unconsciously. Examples of triggers/cues are; stress, feelings of loneliness, negative experiences etc.
Identifying your triggers/cues will help you develop healthy coping mechanisms to avoid or power through the effects.
CHANGE YOUR ENVIRONMENT
Your environment includes places, routines, people and habits that can trigger a relapse. Surround yourself with people who have overcome the addiction you are currently battling with, and stay in places where you will not experience events that would trigger a relapse. This way, you increase your chances of success.
SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP
Recovery takes time, motivation, and support. Getting professional help will provide you with people, places and a regimen to get all the necessary things for your success.
There you have it, folks! The ultimate step-by-step guide to overcoming addiction. Please share this blog post with people you know who need to begin their journey to addiction recovery. Like the blog post for the value, it gave you. Subscribe to the blog, so you will not miss any of my quality blog posts. Until next time!!!